Another article on porn in the Sydney morning Herald today. It explores the damage pornography does in relationships, both in terms of the way it makes women feel betrayed and unloved and also, interestingly, the way it makes men feel guilty and out of control. I don’t think I’ve seen this second aspect discussed much in the media before.
As expected however, the author could not bring themselves to label pornography wrong, and having spent the majority of the article spelling out the problems it causes there is a bizarre final section called ‘the good side of porn’. This section gives the opportunity to put down ‘fundamentalist christians’ who, unlike ‘the experts,’ think that porn is wrong in all situations.
This final section also had a classic quote from one of the so called experts who advised that if couples are going to use porn in their relationship it should be “as respectful and ‘non-toxic’ as it can be”. I think that says it all about the reality of porn. It’s always disrespectful and toxic in some way.
And I would have thought this expert sets the bar way to low as to what anyone would want to have in their relationship. Surely any wise counselor would be advising couples to avoid anything with even a hint of disrespect and toxicity. That’s certainly what Jesus would want – But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. Ephesians 5:3.